Are you tired of your diet? Are you weary of job expectations? Does a neighbor wear on your last nerve? Have your structures lost intent? Has your best friend become distant? Are you sick and tired of the divisiveness in our country?

Did any of those statements apply? If so, you might be ready to trade in the grumble for change. Yes, you can change structures, but you can’t change people or situations. You can only change yourself.  So, let me share with you how my “grumble list” got changed.

Recently, my body decided to go to war against histamines. This demanded a huge change in my eating habits. When I added that to my existing “grumble list,” life began to feel heavy. The divisiveness in our country was causing my emotions to swing from anger to despair. Giving a session to everyone who wanted one was starting to feel like a tiring responsibility. Plus, a good friend emotionally shut down towards me.

Ok, so maybe your list is not as long as mine. But most people have a “grumble list.” It is also true that the list has to get long enough to feel like a burden before there is a willingness to make internal changes. And yes, the change has to be internal before the external will lose its grumble.

The volume of my grumble made me willing to break through my habitual thoughts and feelings and turn to my spirit for help. This help came through early morning visitations. Before bed every night, I stated that I wanted to awaken between 3 and 4 a.m. to have a visitation with my spirit. I chose that time because this is when attunement with the spirit world is clearest. After this visitation time, I go back to sleep until the alarm goes off at 6:00.

Sometimes spirit speaks through my dreams, but often there is no message, just a sense of openness in my feelings, thoughts, and especially in my heart.

Allowing my spirit a priority space changes the way I face the day. I can now let my friend be shut down without losing love. Food has changed from an “I want” to a love of health. Sessions have stopped being about their need and have instead become an expression of my love. And I have even begun to feel the stirrings of unity in the world.

Since all spirits are friends, I look forward to sharing that time with you.